As we witness the decline of neighbourly bonds in modern society, there is a need to restore genuine human connection, as emphasised by Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him)
By Romana Muzaffar Khan
No society in the world can be truly regarded as such until people begin to inhabit it. It is only when individuals establish their homes and settle in proximity to one another that the concept of a community emerges. These individuals, by virtue of their shared space, become neighbours a term that itself suggests closeness, like the companionship of a shadow that never leaves your side.
In earlier times, life was marked by simplicity, contentment, and mutual support. People led peaceful lives, assisting one another without hesitation or expectation. If someone lacked proper clothing or sufficient food, they would turn to their neighbour, who, in the spirit of solidarity, would never refuse. When meals turned out poorly or something unpalatable was prepared, neighbours would exchange dishes without hesitation. In the evenings, when only a few households possessed a television set, the entire neighbourhood would gather in one place to enjoy cricket matches or the nightly news together. While children played nearby, adults listened attentively to updates from across the country and around the world.
Households would often prepare additional food, anticipating the visit of a neighbour, and women would accompany each other on trips to the market. Life, though modest, was joyful and full of warmth.
When someone passed away, it was often the neighbours before even close relatives who stepped forward to provide support. If someone had to travel, they would entrust their house key to a neighbour, who would diligently look after the property in their absence. In times of distress, be it an earthquake, flood, or other calamity, it was the neighbour who stood firmly by one’s side. Even today, when news arrives that a neighbour has been hospitalised, many rush to visit, demonstrating the deep-rooted compassion that once defined our communities.
However, such bonds have gradually deteriorated, though the precise moment or cause of this decline remains unclear.
Modern life, with its emphasis on competition and individual success, has rendered the neighbourly relationship hollow. People come and go for weeks or even months, and their absence goes unnoticed. Every home now has its own television; the spirit of gathering has faded. To borrow a meal or even ask for help is now viewed with disdain. Among children, competition has replaced camaraderie; wearing hand-me-downs is now seen as a source of embarrassment rather than practicality.
In times past, people would visit spiritual leaders to pray for blessings, wealth, housing, vehicles, or marriage. Today, envy and discontent have taken their place. When a neighbour prospers, rather than being happy for them, many respond with resentment: “Why do they have what I don’t?” Some individuals posing as spiritual figures have even been known to exploit these feelings, offering charms or talismans against the very neighbours they once encouraged people to support.
Even small inconveniences, such as rainwater from one roof dripping into another’s courtyard, can now lead to hostility. Arguments over the height of boundary walls or property demarcations have become commonplace, often escalating to police complaints or legal battles. If a neighbour happens to have daughters, they may become the subject of relentless gossip and slander: “Why hasn’t she received a marriage proposal? Their home is so small. Where does she go every day?” In extreme cases, people even follow them, prying into their personal lives.
Do we truly believe our own children will grow into noble individuals while we engage in such behaviour? Certainly not.
The Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) emphasised good conduct with neighbours in numerous hadiths, underscoring the importance of compassion, respect, and mutual care. We must not destroy our hereafter by indulging in envy, malice, or backbiting.
While it may be easy to acquire material possessions, cars on finance, and lavish homes, one must not lose sight of what truly matters. Do not let this pursuit of materialism and superficial status blind you to the beauty of sincere human connection. That neighbour beside you is your fellow human being, your brother or sister in faith. Value them. Honour them. Live in peace and solidarity.
May Allah, the Most High, grant us all the wisdom to live with unity and compassion, and protect us from the harm of malicious neighbours. Aameen.
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