Sometimes I feel lost and other times I feel as if I have conquered the world. The tragedy in my life is not having the courage to accept things as they are. I always used to find happiness in the little things which I had but now life has changed so drastically. I am an introvert now and never express myself in the way I ought to. At times my laughter is not in my control and other times the tears can’t be held in my eyes. Everyone has a good and a bad chapter in life, chapters which they share with parents and friends, but I am among those who only reminisce of the past while mutely observing the present. I have met a lot of people and the worst feeling is that, “All the hardest, coldest people you meet were once as soft as water.”
We all want to achieve goals and sometimes we don’t know whether the things we are trying to achieve can be achieved or not. We want to be surrounded by people whom we adore, but life is not a plate which can serve us each and every dish of our choice.
The journey of life is tough, at least for me. I have seen people flip like a coin. If a person does not master his circumstances, then he is bound to be mastered by them. What matters in life is not whether we receive a round of applause but whether we have the courage to venture forth despite the uncertainty of acclaim. The worst feeling in life is when the perception we have had of others turns out to be exactly the opposite of who they really are. Truly speaking, it took me years to realise that the way we think of others is not what they actually are. Our perception of anyone does not make any difference to them. They all live life according to their own terms. Just as plants bloom, dogs bark, seasons change, those people still live the way they live.
Sometimes we want to forget memories. But after deep thought I have come to know that sadness is the recipe of life. Life can’t serve us only good dishes; without experiencing bad tastes we would not know the worth of good tastes. “The word happiness will lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness,” said Carl Jung.
The whole world wants to see my shining teeth and not the salty water falling down my cheeks. I won’t do injustice with myself just to comfort them. Life is like a puzzle which can’t be solved in one go. Some things we yearn for become hard to achieve. Some people make us strong and some make us weak. When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
I sometimes wonder, can people change? The fact is, people move on from their past quickly. May be what we think of others or what they appear to be is just a hoax. Our past plays an important role in life. It is there to teach us what we could have done differently. That’s all. It is not there for wallowing in.
We believe that we can control things that are uncontrollable. One of life’s most important lessons is learning to give up the illusion of control. We should be capable of facing the reality. Living in reality is a lifelong process that starts with the acknowledgment of truth – the truth about oneself. William Shakespeare said it best: “To thine own self be true”. It takes time, though, to come out from the illusionary world.
We resolve to banish unwanted memories and move on, but trying to suppress certain thoughts often only brings them back in greater force, leaving us overwhelmed and frustrated. Mindfulness or the awareness of the present can improve well-being in a number of ways. We might scoff at the idea that our pain will someday diminish, but time generally does do the trick. A day will eventually come when we have to actually expend effort to recall that person we can’t stop thinking about now. Accepting the truth can help us regain peace of mind. It might not be easy to accept the truth but gradually it can be done by engaging with the present.