Kindness can be cultivated through practice, just like math or reading
In a world often marked by competition and rapid change, the value of kindness can seem increasingly overlooked. Yet, many educators and experts argue that kindness is not just a personality trait – it is a skill that can be taught, nurtured, and practised, especially in schools.
Numerous studies suggest that kindness is not just ‘nice to have’ – it is essential for success both inside and outside the classroom. According to a 2022 study published by the American Psychological Association, students who regularly engage in acts of kindness experience a 23% increase in acceptance from their peers, compared to students who do not. Simply put, kind students are not only happier -they are better connected and more successful socially and academically.
Classrooms: A training ground for life
Schools aren’t just about textbooks and exams; they are social environments where students learn how to interact with the world. Research from the University of British Columbia shows that social-emotional learning (SEL) programs –which teach skills like empathy, cooperation, and emotional regulation – can boost academic achievement and reduce behavioral problems (CASL, 2021 bullying incidents was reduced by 20%).
When kindness is part of the curriculum, students experience lower levels of stress, stronger friendships, and greater self-esteem.
The science behind kindness in schools
- Kindness boosts brain power: A 2019 study from the University of California found that the students who participated in Kindness activities showed improved focus, higher engagement, and even better grades. Acts of kindness stimulate the release of neurochemicals – oxytocin and serotonin, which boost mood and cognitive function.
- It reduces Bullying and improves school climate: Schools that implement SEL programs, which include Kindness education, report up to 20% fewer Bullying incidents (CASE, 2021).
- Kindness lowers stress and anxiety: A Harvard study revealed that students who practice gratitude and kindness experience lower cortisol levels, a hormone linked to stress. In an era where 1 in 3 teens report anxiety disorders, kindness can be a simple but powerful antidote.
- It prepares students for the Real world: Employers rank emotional intelligence (EQ) as more important than IQ in 71% of cases (LinkedIn, 2023). Kindness fosters teamwork, leadership, and resilience- skills that matter long after graduation.
How schools are making kindness part of the lesson plan
Across the world, schools are realising that teaching kindness can lead to real, measurable benefits. Successful strategies include:
- The kindness curriculum: A 12-week program teaching mindfulness and compassion led to higher social competence and better academic performance in young students (Centre for Healthy Minds, 2017).
Kindness challenges: Schools encouraging students to complete daily or weekly acts of kindness have reported noticeable boosts in school morale.
- Role modelling: Teachers and staff set the tone. When students observe kindness in action, they are more likely to emulate it.
- Emotional education: Teaching students to recognise emotions – both in themselves and in others – strengthens empathy and understanding.
- Peer mentorship & buddy system: Schools that pair older students with younger ones have been shown to reduce loneliness and build confidence in both groups.
- Positive reinforcement: Recognising and rewarding acts of kindness reinforces good behaviour and makes kindness a prominent part of the school culture.
More than just nice words
Critics argue that teaching Kindness is the responsibility of parents, not schools. However, considering the amount of time students spend in educational settings, schools are ideally positioned to reinforce and model positive behaviour. In fact, when kindness is taken seriously, it creates a safer learning environment, promotes diversity and inclusion, and nurtures emotional resilience.
Teaching kindness is not about producing perfect students; it’s about equipping young people with the emotional tools they need to navigate a complex and sometimes harsh world.
Why it matters
Kindness does not just make students feel good; it builds emotional resilience, reduces stress, and strengthens relationships- all of which are essential for the long-term success. A 2019 Harvard study found that individuals who demonstrated strong “prosocial behaviours” (such as helping, sharing, and cooperating) in childhood were more likely to have stable careers and strong mental health in adulthood.
Moreover, in a digital world where online bullying is rampant, teaching kindness is more important than ever. Schools have a unique opportunity to model and reinforce positive behaviours that can counteract the negativity students sometimes face online.
A call to action
As education evolves to meet the needs of the 21st-century, we must ask: Are we preparing students to simply pass a tests, or to thrive in life? The data is clear – there is no distraction from learning to teach kindness; it is the foundation of meaningful, lasting success.
Education should not just be about filling minds- it should be about shaping hearts. As the Dalai Lama once said, “Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all”.
Kaisar Mushtaq
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