If there is any purest and happiest stage in human life, it is childhood. The pristine human soul in childhood brims with happiness, dances in ecstasy, and grows in curiosity. A child, in fact, is the blooming flower that perfumes the surroundings. The child is a new person or personality in formation, a father to man as per Wordsworth.
The tender souls need to be properly cared for, especially by their parents. Life is not static and no human stage is permanent. Childhood, too, approaches adulthood and during the course of the transition, children are highly vulnerable physically, emotionally, psychologically and mentally.
It is here that the mutual relationship of parents gains more importance as it affects the child’s formation positively or negatively. Fortunate are children whose parents are always on good terms with each other. They are indeed blessed as they grow up in the lap of care and affection. Harmonious relationship between parents provides them with ample opportunity to taste the fruit of success in every respect. Apart from love and care they get moral, emotional and psychological support and are encouraged to dream big.
When parents are understanding and respectful to each other, they become a perennial source of inspiration for their children. These parents are generous enough to share their feelings, experiences and wisdom and act as torch bearers to lead their young ones. The supportive hands of these parents redouble energy in young ones who find themselves confident enough to chase their goals. The very presence of such noble parents provides a soothing effect to the young ones who are beset with new challenges and tensions.
On the other hand, fate is unkind to children whose parents live in constant conflict and are in bitter relationships. These children are looked down upon as unwanted things. They grow disfigured and scarred in such an environment. The tussle between parents affects the children adversely and leaves them bereft of any aim and aspiration. Not to talk of high thinking and lofty ideals, these children are not even destined to see and experience any peaceful and normal day. There are no plans, no dreams to be pursued because there is no counseling, no guidance on part of their parents to groom them and enable them to excel in life. These children are emotionally and psychologically harassed and that too by none other than their own parents. The pristine world of their dreams is shattered, their confidence is rinsed and their emotions are buried within their innocent chests.
Good relationship between parents is of paramount importance to ensure the future and safeguard the childhood of children. Adults often blame the young ones for their irresponsible behaviour when the fault lies with them. It has been found that a number of children become school dropouts and fall victim to child labour only because of their parents not being on good terms. An ideal relationship between parents paves the way for the ideal future of their children.
Every single person in the world is unique and has his/her own personality traits. Personalities are like fingerprints. You will never find two of the exact same kind. Our personalities are a result of the various kinds of experiences we face. It is also a result of our upbringing. Parental influence on personality development of any child is highly significant. It decides the kind of adults we grow into. It is important to ensure that parenting style supports healthy growth and development of the child.
In essence, it is pivotal to maintain a perfect balance between being a friend and a parent. Parents should know how to set their relationships right, because their actions have consequences.

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Rabia Yousuf