ARIF AKBAR MIR
Someone who is a true friend stands for you when others try to hurt you emotionally or physically; they do everything they can to make sure you stay safe. They do not care who is trying to harm you; they will defend you anytime, anywhere. If they can help you, they will do it without any reservation or reward in return.
True friends are not phony with you but they are something special and always try to do something special for you. They show you who they really are. They are always honest with you when it matters most. A real friend accepts you as you are. He can encourage you to become a better version of you, but he also helps you to see the beauty of who you are right now.
Do you know if you have bad qualities, most probably you got it from your friends and peers, those you mixed with? Sometimes they might even be your family members (sometimes even your parents too). So if you have a bad quality you probably got it from somewhere.( I may say it is not associated with you by nature, you get it from the devil present in those you mixed with if i am not wrong!) That devil came to you in the form of possibly or most probably your friends and your peers and sometimes that devil cones in the form of your best friend. May Allah protect us from devil and from those friends in which devil is present. So parents need to be careful what type of friends their children mix with and more important than that is what type of people we mix with. Not only parents should think but at an individual level every person must think about that.
We are taught when you want to know someone, do not look at them; just look at the people they mix with and close the file! Normally regarding marriage, you want to know a boy or girl. More important than asking ,look at those they mix with and you will get the answer.
When a person is smoking, 9 times out of 10, they have learnt it from the people they have associated with. When a person is on drugs 9 times out of 10, same is the case. When a person does not come for salaah 9 times out of 10 they diverged only due to the reason that is the people whom they mix with and that is why rehabilitation is a waste of time if you yourself do not want to help yourself.
Allah (SWT) says in the holy Quran “If you want to save yourself from the distressing fire of Hell the first thing you need to do is change your bad company totally.
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