Emotion(s) Can Lead Us Anywhere, Even into Depression. Here’s How to Understand and Cope up With It

Sufi Husain

We associate emotions with negative feelings. When we see someone crying, or hurt we tell each other he or she is very emotional. Happiness is an emotion, anger is an emotion, jealousy is an emotion, rage is an emotion, vengeance is an emotion, zeal is an emotion, courage is an emotion, fear is an emotion, love is an emotion, depression is an emotion, hate is an emotion, when we feel someone is cute we represent our emotions, when we like some one, those are our emotions. Your feelings at any particular time represent your emotional state. “e” of emotion represents feelings and “motion” means movement. Emotions are nothing but feelings in motion.

Emotions makes us human, denying them makes us beast( Victoria Klien)

This essay will be particularly dealing with depression. This is an invisible disease eating away our society. We have to step in to address this issue. If anyone you know is feeling depressed, even if it is chronic there is a lot you could do as a friend or a companion. Unlike other diseases it is somewhat embarrassing to reveal it to any one if you are suffering from depression or anyone you know is. There is a taboo attached to the depression, people usually relate it to severe mental condition or madness.
Most people feel sad or depressed at times. It’s a normal reaction to loss or life’s struggles. But when intense sadness including feeling helpless, hopeless, and worthless lasts for many days to weeks and keeps you from living your life, it may be something more than sadness. You could have clinical depression a treatable medical condition.
How Do I Know If I Have Depression?
When you have five or more of these symptoms for at least two weeks:
• A depressed mood during most of the day, especially in the morning
• You feel tired or have a lack of energy almost every day.
• You feel worthless or guilty almost every day.
• You have a hard time focusing, remembering details, and making decisions.
• You can’t sleep or you sleep too much almost every day.
• You have almost no interest or pleasure in many activities nearly every day.
• You think often about death or suicide (not just a fear of death).
• You feel restless or slowed down.
• You’ve lost or gained weight.
• Feel irritable and restless
• Lose pleasure in life
• Overeat or stop feeling hungry
• Have aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that don’t go away or get better with treatment
• Have sad, anxious, or “empty” feelings
• Overreact to anything, or stay passive almost to anything.
While these symptoms are common, not everyone with depression will have the same ones. How severe they are, how often they happen, and how long they last can vary.Your symptoms may also happen in patterns. For example, depression may come with a change in seasons (a condition formerly called seasonal affective disorder).
Can Depression Have Physical Symptoms?
It’s not uncommon for people with depression to have physical signs of the condition. They may include joint pain, back pain, digestive problems, sleeptrouble, and appetite changes. You might have slowed speech and movements, too. The reason is that brain chemicals linked to depression, specifically serotonin and norepinephrine, play a role in both mood and pain.
These thoughts sometimes turn suicidal and that is when it takes a bizarre turn. When giving up seems like the easiest option and odds are stacked against you, this is when this suicidal feeling overshadows every other feeling. Sometimes it feels you will collapse. Always keep pushing and always keep going. When you keep fighting this battle silently the resistance from fighting your suicidal feeling accumulates; you actually come out as a winner from this battle of selves. If we keep going even when we feel utter darkness in front of us as though recovery is impossible, you will surface eventually.
We often look at people and think that how beautiful his or her life is. Within our heart we aspire to live that life and abandon ours. We hardly have any idea, as what we are asking for. Life is never going to be “easy” for anyone, you can learn from your past, live in present, and work for your better future. You have to keep yourself engaged. No matter who you are or how suicidal you feel, there is a treasure inside you. You are completely unique, you have gift to offer to this world that is completely unique. Leaving the world prematurely by taking your own life, you will also be taking that gift you were meant to share with others and ultimately this world will not be as bright as it was meant to be. Like any other feeling this depression is temporary. It is a feeling in motion. It will move and will be replaced by other. If it returns you, remember how to fight it.
If you are told to hold a glass of water in hand, at first it is easy to hold, but if you have to hold it for 5 minutes, your hand will become tired. If you are told to hold it for one hour, you entire arm may start paining and eventually pain will engulf your entire body. Let go the grip, place it on the table and your hand is available to handle some other thing. Likewise the more attention we give to our depressing thoughts the more powerful they become. They engulf out entire attention, render our mental faculty & physical activities dysfunctional. Just like that glass of water, let it lose, nothing is going to change, world is not going to vanish. Your mind is free to take another task. We look at this world through a lens and we keep clearing it in order to have a better view. Sometimes we need to pay attention to the lens itself. Whether this lens is actually required, whether it is worn out or is it still functional.
Being a friend and a companion if anyone you know is suffering from depression. Know that it is not simple and plain for them as it is for you. You can’t force anyone out of it by shouting, or giving examples. Give them a patient hearing; talk them their way out of this. Help them with relevant books, movies and videos, take them out, and make them feel loved, cherished. Tell them how incomplete this world will look without you. Tell them how much your presence means to your friends and your family. Even though nobody recognizes your worth, you are masterpiece of this creation, created by almighty; you do not need anybody’s endorsement to feel worthy. Sooner or later you will find your purpose of existence, till that time keep yourself busy, develop new skills, share your teachings, be happy and travel.
John Lennon said:
“When I went to school, they told me what I want to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them, they didn’t understand life”

—The author is an advocate at the High Court of Jammu & Kashmir and can be reached at: sufi071@xeal.in