Daughters are without doubt a great blessing from Almighty Allah. They are a means of salvation and a path to Jannah (Heaven) for their parents. The crux of one narration states, “One who loves his daughters and withstands the hardship of grooming and getting them married, Almighty Allah makes Jannah compulsory (Waajib) on him and keeps him protected from the Fire of Hell.”
Daughters are a gift from Almighty Allah. Those parents who are kind towards them, then Almighty Allah is generous towards them. Those who are merciful to their daughters, Almighty Allah is Merciful towards them.”“When a girl is born to a family, then between the parents and Hell, there shall be a distance of five hundred years.”It has been stated that: When parents rejoice at the birth of a daughter, this is greater than making Tawaaf of the Kaaba seventy times.
When Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal (RA) would hear that one of his relatives or friends had a baby girl, he would say to them ,“Congratulations for the Prophets were mostly fathers of daughters.”Muslims should also remember that the family of the Holy Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) is from his beloved daughter Sayyidah Fatima Zahra (RA). Allah(SWT) has promised a place in paradise (Jannah) on bringing them up. The one who has 3 daughters or sisters, or 2 daughters or sisters and he brings them up properly and fears Allah(SWT) regarding their rights, then Paradise is made mandatory for him.
With these open and authentic texts, with the enhanced and repeated good news, the birth of girls is not at all a fearful burden nor is it a bad omen.It is that daughters are indeed a source of blessing from Allah(SWT), therefore if a daughter is born in someone’s house, he should not be saddened by this, instead he should rejoice and thank Allah(SWT) for this blessing. How can they be inferior when a place in paradise is being promise against them? Getting saddened by the birth of daughters was the practice of the Non-Believers(Kuffar) because before the Prophet(SAW) came, the Kuffar used to get saddened by the birth of daughters and used to consider them a burden as they would need to find someone for their daughters to marry. They were such animals that they used to bury their innocent daughters alive.The Qur’an describes the condition of fathers when daughters were born:“And when one among of them receives the glad tidings of a daughter, his face turns black for the day, and he remains seething. Hiding from the people because of the evil of the tidings; “Will he keep her with disgrace, or bury her beneath the earth?”; pay heed! Very evil is the judgment they impose!” [Surah al-Nahl, Verse 58-59]. The Qur’an led an uncompromising campaign against those cruel people who kill children-whether male or female. Allah says in the Qur’an:“Indeed ruined are those who slay their children out of senseless ignorance and forbid the sustenance which Allah has bestowed upon them, in order to fabricate lies against Allah; they have undoubtedly gone astray and not attained the path.”[Surah al-Anaam, Verse 140] . And Allah Almighty says:“And do not kill your children, fearing poverty; We shall provide sustenance to them as well as toyou; indeed killing them is a great mistake.” [Surah Bani Israel, Verse 31]Some ancient laws gave the father the right to sell his daughter if he wished; while others allowed him to hand her to another man who would either kill her or own her if the father killed the other man’s daughter.
When Islam was revealed, it decreed a daughter – like a son – was a gift from Allah, to be granted to whomever Allah wishes of His worshipers: “For Allah only is the kingship of the heavens and the earth; He creates whatever He wills; He may bestow daughters to whomever He wills, and sons to whomever He wills. Or may mix them, the sons and daughters; and may make barren whomever He wills; indeed He is All Knowing, Able.” [Surah al-Shoora, Verses 49-50]. It is these blessed daughters that are the means for the existence of humanity, how can they be considered a curse, this is the act of the Non Believers.
The Prophet(SAW) has called her a blessed woman who’s first child is a daughter. Therefore rejoice and smile when you hear about the birth of daughters and consider them a blessing for yourself. Islam has given a very high status to daughters, therefore consider them a huge blessing of Allah(SWT). It is these daughters through whom Saints (Auliya Allah) are born and above all, our beloved Prophet(SAW), for whom this world was created, his family and bloodline was continued through his daughter. If daughters were not a blessing then Allah(SWT) would never choose them to carry forward the bloodline of his most beloved Prophet(SAW). This shows that daughters are indeed a great blessing so do not consider them inferior.
Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) clearly explained that the birth of a daughter means double blessings for the family. She carry two lights with her, as stated in a Hadith,“ When a boy is born, then he brings one Noor (light) and when a girl is born, then she brings two Noors.” Even though having a son and a daughter is different, as people tend to prefer a boy rather than a girl, parents must not treated differently. Whoever loves their daughters and sons equally will be admitted to Paradise.AsSayyidina Ibn ‘Abbas (RA) recounted, “Whoever had a female who was not buried nor insulted by him, and had not preferred his male children to her, Allah admits him to Paradise.”Islam never views man higher than woman. Instead, woman is valued really highly in Islam, so that there is one particular Surah dedicated only for woman in the Holy Quran. Let’s not think a daughter as burden for us. Cherish and love them as much as we could, as daughters are the fastest shortcut to Jannah.
—The Author is a student of English Literature and works as a Teacher and Member in an Organisation Idarah Banat uz Zahra, Baramulla. She can be reached at: Bintemushtaq777@gmail.com