A person gets appalled and dismayed when totally unlikely things take place in society. There are certain incidents which are sufficient to shake our conscience, moral sense and humanity. The Bandipora brutal rape case is one among them. People in the Kashmir valley are in deep shock, sorrow and anger, as a 3 year old girl fell into the snares of a pedophile. The reaction is genuine and expected. People are protesting in the north, south and center. On every tongue, there is just one demand, justice for victim. Notwithstanding all this, I fail to understand why some people are pelting stones on security establishments and performing violent protests. Why is the state – the only entity against which we vent our anger or frustration every time, when anything happens in our society? The beast, savage and culprit is produced by us and is among us. We need to talk about our society, culture, ethos and values collectively. More importantly, we need to correct ourselves; what went wrong and where it went.
Rape is a crime of passion and lust. In the era of globalization where we live in a global village, we grasp things from different places. Commodifying and objectifying women’s body, exposure to nudity, item songs, pornography and erotic content, are among the other main factors responsible for such heinous incidents. A person is exposed to vulgar, unethical and immoral content from a very tender age. These very things shape the brain of a person. There is a saying; a person is what he reads, what he watches, and what he engages in.
Let’s be honest. Our society, culture, ethos and values have changed. It is the talk of the day that parents have no control over their children. The parents give absolute liberty to their children. The unfortunate reality is that parents and family are not interested in teaching a child from tender age about gender, sex, respecting modesty of women, good touch, bad touch and sex education. In these circumstances, how can one expect the development of personality and humanness in a person when he grows up as an adult? When a parent and family leaves a child on his own, without teaching him morals, ethics, fear of God among other things, he is surely to develop qualities of savagery, barbarity, ill-mentality among other things, when he grows up.
We are living in an era where there is a concept among some of the parents that they procure a child, invest in him whatever they have earned in life and get profit in return like a property or material. Shaping personality of a child has taken a back seat. Where materialism is order of day, morality, ethics, sanity, fear of God suffer casualty. Therefore, the society as whole has shredded its responsibility from inculcating humanness and values in future generations. We must stop producing rapists at first place. Prescribing deterrent laws like capital punishment come later. It is time to rebuild our society on same lines of our cherished culture, ethos and values, where it becomes better place to live in.
— The author is a 3rd year Law student at School of Legal Studies, Central University of Kashmir. He blogs at http://AbrarReyaz.wordpress.com/ and can be reached at: email@example.com. His twitter handle is @