By Nusrat Sidiq
SRINAGAR: The triple talaaq has left both the giver and the receiver in distress and there seems to be no way out.
More than three months ago, Shaheena (name changed) came to her parents’ home after she had an argument with her husband.
Six days later, her husband called her on phone and another argument ensued, this time more heated than the previous one.
“He said talaaq three times. A few days later he came to our house and said he was sorry for his behaviour,” Shaheena said. But the three words pronounced in rage had separated the couple, according to one interpretation of the divorce issue.
“I never knew these words would change everything. We had to separate over a trivial issue. The whole family has been shattered, my husband had no intention of divorcing me,” he said.
Shaheena’s father, however, fully well knew the import of these words. I met many religious scholars and muftis and they told me that the couple is divorced now.
The couple then went to court, which advised them to consult religious authorities.
Brought up in the Hanafi tradition, the couple has been told that the only way they can be together again is that Shaheena would have to remarry and then divorce her second husband. She can remarry her first husband after a waiting period of three months.
Mufti Abdul Rasheed, an Islamic scholar, said, “People pronounce talaaq on petty issues. Firstly, if a husband or wife says talaaq thrice in one go it is unislamic but it dissolves the marriage.”
“The correct way is if a husband says talaaq to her wife he has to wait till her periods are over and then say the second talaaq and then say the final talaaq after her third menstrual period is over. During this time he can rethink his decision to divorce. But if he is convinced then the marriage is dissolved,” he added.