A child becomes what the parents make out of him. Teach him to live like wolves and he will howl like them. Normally no parent wants to spoil his child by ignoring him, by fulfilling his each and every wish, by teaching him abusive language or by encouraging him to insult others. Every parent wishes to see his child on top of the world. However, in the process of rearing a child parents do commit mistakes, which affect the child’s mind adversely.
Islam is a complete code of conduct. Besides teaching Muslims how to live with life, the great religion directs them to take utmost care and caution during child rearing. Some parents also smile when the child tells a lie or uses abusive language. This is a dangerous trend and can have disastrous consequences. The so-called modern parents teach their children how to dance on vulgar tunes. It has become a fashion now and most of the parents feel elevated when their wards shake their legs. And when the child grows up, s/he does not see anything wrong in such dancing. It encourages licentiousness and promiscuity. The irony is that the parents watch their grown up daughters dance before strangers in marriage parties and other occasions.
When the child starts understanding things, he must be told about Oneness of Allah the most exalted and the Prophethood of Muhammad (SAW). This is an obligation and far better than teaching them how to shake legs on a vulgar Bollywood songs.
Just as a child should be taught ritual acts of worship, s/he should also be taught good habits and etiquette until they become second nature to him. The most revered Prophet (SAW) has laid great emphasis on manners. “Believers who have the most perfect Iman (faith) are those who have the best manners.” (Al Bukhari).
Good manners are an acquired trait that must be adopted from a young age. Allah the most exalted and the Holy Prophet (SAW) have repeatedly urged the Muslims to be kind to their parents. “And your Rabb (Lord) has decreed that you should worship none but Him and be kind to parents. If one or both of them reach old age during your lifetime, never say ‘uff’ (an expression of displeasure), nor scold them, but address them politely. And humble yourself to them out of mercy and say, ‘O my Rabb (Lord,) be merciful to them for having reared me from young age.'” (Holy Qur’an, 17: 23, 24)
Similarly the most revered Prophet (SAW) once said, “I pity the person who saw his parents (both or one of them) in old age and could not win a place in Jannah.” (Al Bukhari).
The verse and the hadith reflect the importance of parents. Therefore, the child must be told to be respectful and dutiful to his parents. The first person from whom a child learns good manners is the father. If a child is raised in a good Islamic home, then it would be natural for him to treat his parents respectfully.
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